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Engagement: Pick a fight!

I was thinking about a way to summarize my previous post about my unfortunate marriage incident, and I came up with the perfect solution. We may go through an engagement being perfectly happy and content with the way things are, but to truly test the power of the relationship, you have to pick a fight!

That may sound a little harsh but in truth, when you’re in agreement and everything is OK that is only PART of your relationship. There will definitely be a point in time when you both will disagree, and maybe get frustrated with each other, and probably want to end up throwing plates at each other! If you at least get a taste of that, and are able to manage it and deal with it during the engagement that will up your chances of a successful marriage.

11 Responses to “Engagement: Pick a fight!”

  1. Marzouq |

    I don’t think that this is the best way about it, I think both people have to grow as a person. When the couple grow together there are bumps on the road, with some giving and taking, and they have to get used to life together.

    But if after all options are used then people might not work things out. There are some general factors which can be applied to all relationships, but most relationships arent the same.

    Its a tough thing, the most important thing is to come out of a better person and to have learned something.

  2. Nomad |

    i like fights :p

  3. N. |

    Marzouq,
    I agree there, but if in the start they couldn’t get a simple conflict resolved together? If each person had a different view about being a “team”.. that would be quite hard to realize without actually going through a conflict together.

    Nomad,
    ya right! :p

  4. Laialy_q8 |

    marriage, yekh! :p
    some people (some not all) really are not ready and don’t understand the responsibilities that come with marriage

  5. N. |

    Laialy,
    I couldn’t agree more, some people don’t even understand what marriage means!! lol @ yekh!

  6. Shoush |

    Fighting (disagreeing; no need for violence, disrespect or bad language of course) is an essential ingredient for healthy marriages. There has to be action! Drama! Heat! Then kiss and make-up. U know, otherwise it wud be a boring relationship.

  7. Marzouq |

    N that is one aspect of things, the problem we have is that a lot of people get married not realizing the responsibilities as well as the work they have to put into it. They always think its a really simple thing, and that they don’t have to do anything when they get married. There has to be some realistic expectations put in when people get married as to how things work.

    Seeing how problems are solved is important, not picking a fight! hehehe!

  8. Angelo |

    “probably want to end up throwing plates at each other!”

    LOL this sentence reminded me of the movie “Battle of the Roses.”

    I don’t think you have to agree in everything in marriage…just learn to compromise insteadat least thats what I think.

  9. N. |

    Shoush,
    Sure! It would make the relationship more interesting, if you say so :p

    Marzouq,
    True, a lot of people do actually think it is easy, and that they can just live a little different, but some don’t even comprehend! You have to pick a fight so solve it! :p LOL

    Angelo,
    Compromise, or even agree to disagree, don’t you think so.

  10. EniGma |

    i’m so bad with fights. i don’t deal with them well

  11. N. |

    It isn’t/shouldn’t be a fight, as much as it should just be a conflict. Talking does wonders, but the pair have to talk together, not at each other, and not to themselves.

Reserved, going to add something here later.