Life is a series of choices. Every step is a choice, an option, a decision. We try our best to make these choices based on what we know. What we pick may not be based on what is right and what is wrong, but what we believe in our minds and hearts. Whatever we do decide, we have to compromise. It is always one or the other.

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You’ve Changed

Two FriendsHow many times have you heard that? We all change, it is a part of growing up. We are not who we were 5 years ago, or at least we hope we’re not — we’d want to be better wouldn’t we? Are you who you were 5 years ago? 4 years ago? 3, 2, 1 year ago? If you sit right now and think about the stages you’ve been through in your life, and how much you’ve changed.. what do make of it?

At 2 years old…
…You were a baby, if you can remember that far.. then you’ve got one great memory (masha2′alla).
At 6 years old…
…You went to school for the first time. You remember that because there’s something you can never forget about that school. Maybe it was a teacher, a classroom, an event, some friends, or even the lunch you had!
At 9 years old…
…You are loving your birthday parties. You got tons of toys and birthday presents. You watch cartoons most of the time. If you’ve done your homework you even get treated to something good.
At 12 years old…
…You’re half way through middle school, you loved to play, or read, or do something special. You had a passion, something that you loved a lot.
At 15 years old…
…You’re no longer a child but a teenager. You’ve hit puberty and started to notice the other sex more. You have your first, second, or third crush. You did boyish things if you were a boy, and did girly things if you were a girl. Very teenage-like.
At 18 years old…
…You’ve graduated high school, or about to. You are even more interested in the other gender. You are also into another type of passion. For guys, it is mostly either sports or geeky stuff. For girls, it is mostly … [some help here girls?] alright, anyway you get the point ;P
At 21 years old…
…You’re definitely no longer a child, you’re probably in college or working someplace. You’re more involved in society, maybe even more interested in men’s stuff now. Girls are interested in women’s stuff. However both are more into their friends now. They’d rather spend a whole day with them, than with family or at any work/school.
At 24 years old…
…You’ve graduated and ready to face the world. You imagine life to be a huge endless field. All this time you’ve been running through a passageway — the entrance to the real world. Soon you’ll be working or studying some more but you know you’ve become mature now, and people can tell — especially relatives.

Along the way, some have kept their friends since they were in their early stages. There are others who have moved on, or moved away, and met different people, and made new friends. For some of us, the people whom we just met are our friends, and will probably stay that way for a long time to come.

You change, your friends change, everyone changes (to the better I hope). How do you cope when a close person to you starts changing? You gradually noticed the signs, but you ignored them, then soon enough, you know you were right, and the truth is that this person has decided to move on to better and bigger things in their life. This new life cannot quite accommodate you as it did before, you start losing touch and soon enough you’re barely together.

Can We believe?

Do I believe what I want to believe? I hear things, many things, and sometimes I wonder if I only believe the things that I want to believe, to preserve my sanity probably, or my composure. Don’t worry this isn’t a depressed post, it is more of a questions post. One that I seem to always have a conversation with myself about. What about you, do you sometimes find yourself believing only the things you want to believe?

Yosh..

Ki o tsukete..

Justice vs. Mercy

Garbage AlleyA homeless mother of four children has no way of feeding them. She has asked for help, but without avail, she is left in the wild to care for her children alone without money, food, or shelter. She fears for her children’s health and would never eat out of a garbage can, but she has no other choice — until — she sees the opportunity to take some food from a rich family that lives close by. She does the crime, to save herself and her children. In the process, she accidentally breaks some very valuable kitchenware.

The women is caught by the police. If you were the judge, would you prosecute this woman for her criminal behavior? Would you let her go, because she had no other choice?

This is only an example where Justice and Mercy clash. What do you have to say about this? What should be done?

Hypocrisy: A Theoretical Situation

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion regardless of who they are. Also each person is entitled to their own belief of what is right and what is wrong. One of the most debated subject in philosophy is the notion of right and wrong and the idea of an absolute truth. Some believe that there is no absolute truths and that everything is relative. However, others belief is an absolute right and wrong.

An example of this would be the situation where a group of people are together, and there is no leader or a form of law present. If someone in the group poses a threat, would it be right to single them out? Some believe there is, in order to preserve the survival and wellness of the group. Others believe we should not judge others based on what they are like.

If indeed we are entitled to our own opinions, do we not also have the right to change our minds based on what we believe? Our beliefs can change and thus we can change our own opinions as how we see fit.

Hypocrisy is the act of condemning or calling for the condemnation of another person when the critic is guilty of the act for which he demands that the accused be condemned.

source: Wikipedia: Hypocrisy

In the previous example, if the person who had posed a threat had a change in belief and another person emerged as a threat, and the previous person asked for the new threat to be singled out, do we say that he is a hypocrite?

Morning Thoughts

Alight!Looks like today is going to be a good day enshalla! The morning is beautiful. The streets were crowded but that was alright, nothing too horrible. Did you know you could reduce driving congestion related stress by listening to some good music? Yep, it works!

I was contemplating the topic of my next mini-discussion here. I was first thinking about talking about hypocrisy. This is one of the deep subjects that gets a lot of people in trouble, confusion, and probably wars and fights.

The other subject that came across my mind was justice versus mercy. I understand that probably any sane person would decide on one based on the situation. Any argument which has no clear evidence will lead to pick either justice or mercy. Here is where it will get interesting.

I’m not sure yet which topic to pick. What do you think? Which should I pick?

As for now, I’ll leave you with a groovy song. You better get your butts off your seats and start shakin’.


Click the play button to play the song. If you want to know how I added the song, check out MyFlashFetish.com. :)

Selfish: How we decide, Part 2

First I want to thank ALL the people who contributed to the previous post, Selfish: What do you think, Part 1. I was tempted to reply to each and individual contribution, however consider part 2 a reply, to each one of you.

That little exercise was meant to demonstrate the types of selfishness we possess. We can be considered selfless or unselfish if we have no concern for ourselves and have a sacrificial spirit by giving up a part of us for someone else to gain it. However…

If we really delve into it, then being selfless is another form of selfishness is it not? When we sacrifice a part or all of our being to a cause or to someone are we not being selfish as well? How? You may ask. We all achieve or gain something in the end. Many of you gave answers that were very different from one another. However in the end there was always something to be gained, be it an active satisfaction, or a passive one. Most of the time it was for the sake of care and love of close ones. If we give up ourselves by passive selfishness, the other person or people involved will gain something directly, and we would gain a stronger and better bond with these people.

Pious people are known to be the most selfless. They would seem to selfless as if they cared not about themselves. It did not matter to them if the party involved was a stranger or a close person, they would go to great lengths for the sake of others. Pious people believe in being rewarded in the end. This has turned a selfless act into a form of selfishness.

There is no right and wrong answer. Many of you said that your answers would be situational, and I do agree. We may never know what exactly we might do unless we were in that particular situation. There is always something to be gained, directly or indirectly. I’m not saying gaining is a bad thing, but it is when we and others gain that really makes the difference.

Selfish: What do you think?, Part 1

We all have a form of selfishness. I would like to talk in depth about this topic, however first I would like your input. Which would you choose? There is no right or wrong answer here.

Imagine yourself in the situation before giving a complete answer. Also, please include your reasoning with your answer.

Question #1:
If you were in a position where you would need to either sacrifice yourself and save many others, or you could save your own life and risk everyone else’s?

Question #2:
If you and another person were in love, and you had to make a choice between choosing what is best for yourself, or what is best for the other person, which would you decide? Lets consider that one of the choices involves splitting up, either one it doesn’t matter.

Question #3:
If you were in a position where you knew something important and keeping it from someone you cared about (a close friend, family, significant other) knowing that if you did tell that person it might hurt them, would you say it anyway? Or would you keep it a secret and not tell, and let that secret hurt you alone? (In other words would you share the pain, thinking you are sharing vital information, or would you carry the burden on your shoulders and be in pain while protecting the one you care about from this information).

Please provide your input in the comments. Also if you have someone next to you while reading this, ask them! I need as much as I can about this. I will post a reply in part two. :)

Regards,
N.

When The Storm of Chaos Settles

Life is so complex, that sometimes we get thrown off balance. We get thrown into chaos. We enter what I like to call, the cycle of emotions (oh how unique :p). Where we mostly try and do our best to get back on track.

Sometimes we get sidetracked into too much sadness and guilt, we dwell in these feelings for too long. We dig a deeper hole for ourselves. We struggle to find a way to come out of that hole. Sometimes we do, other times we just can’t because we don’t see the way.

Here is a list of emotions we go through in such a storm, especially in this order;
Confusion, Hate, Anger, Sadness, Pain, Remorse, Guilt, Regret, Forget, Forgive, Remember, Accept, Hope, Dream, Love, Trust, Betrayal.

Alright, I just made up that list in that specific order to show the stages one goes through. It is not easy to just jump from emotion to emotion but we do what we can to keep on living. We can live on accepting the fact that some things are just out of our control. We cannot control every situation and make the outcome be in our favor. There are people out there who feel things we do not understand, or we do not accept, but who’s to say who’s right and who’s wrong.

These storms can last from days, to weeks, to months or even years. The most important stage here is Hope. It is safe, it is comforting, and it is what keeps us going. I believe that beautiful things can happen in this world, regardless of how messed up everything seems.

All we need is a little bit of faith.

While typing this, a song kept playing in my head. Here it is for you.

Hoobastank – The Reason [Lyrics]

P.S. The one who brought them together once, can bring them back again. :)

KISS!

Kissing

The picture has nothing to do with the post, I just like it. Also, this isn’t about THAT kiss but a totally different K.I.S.S.

I have been reading for a while now about a principle of simplicity on Wikipedia, branching off to other links and topics (So much for number 8 in my previous post!). I think I have found what I have been searching for for years.

I tend to spend too much time thinking (That’s number 7 in my previous post!) about everything and anything. From random silly stuff, to serious life-changing thoughts. I tend to philosophize a lot too. Thinking about theories, possibilities, examples, experiments, and so much more! I noticed that most of the process of thinking and doing things in this world is way too complicated! So many things could be a lot simpler.

So here it is folks, my calling, and my motto of the week for you!

K.I.S.S.Keep it Simple, Stupid (And other Variations.)

P.S. There’s a mention of Occam’s razor in that Wikipedia article. Occam’s razor is about theory selection. If you have multiple theories that reach the same conclusion, then the one with the least necessary assumptions is the best of the group. I also found the following comic, you have to understand the idea behind Occam’s razor to get it :p

Occams Razor


From: Math.ucr.edu [via In the Headlights: Keep it Simple Stupid]
Original Artist’s Archived Post by Kristin Abkemeier, Ph.D. @ Radioactive-Banana.com

No Limit, Be Who You Want to Be

House of Cards
Some of us always knew what we wanted to be. For those of us that didn’t, never is it late to think about it. I like to believe that most limitations people place are only in their heads. The possibilities are endless. We should not be limited in thinking, neither should be limited in doing what we want to do. If a few obstacles are a problem, then they should be, cause rarely does anything worth doing or having comes without any obstacles.

Reserved, going to add something here later.