Life is a series of choices. Every step is a choice, an option, a decision. We try our best to make these choices based on what we know. What we pick may not be based on what is right and what is wrong, but what we believe in our minds and hearts. Whatever we do decide, we have to compromise. It is always one or the other.

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Facebook Question

I enjoy facebook a little. It is nice to get around and meet old friends whom you have lost touch with. What I don’t like about it is currently only one thing. Those damned group messages! Is there an option to stop receiving messages ONLY from groups without leaving said group?

To-Do

I hate to-do lists. I can barely follow them through, but t his is a different kind of to-do list! I created the Things page to keep track of the important items and places I want to keep in mind. Here are what I mentioned;

Things I want to Buy

  • Moleskine
  • Playstation 3
  • Network Storage Device
  • New Desktop Computer
  • Mac OS X 10.5
  • MacBook Pro

Places I want to See/Go

  • Japan
  • Italy
  • Germany
  • South America

P.S. I also changed the about page and added a more contact information.

Conserve

We live in a world where we must learn to conserve energy. We learn to limit our energy usage and actually give a crap about the state of the world. Even though I understand that we must promote alternative and environmental changes for the better, why does this have to happen at the expense of no electricity in the summer!

Logically, our country is doing well economically with the soaring oil prices over the past 5 years. What is the problem guys? I’m not going to get pissed (that ship has sailed). It just doesn’t make sense to have these blackouts! Why isn’t there a new power plant? Or better yet, let Kuwait join the action! Lets refine and weaponize transform plutonium into energy i.e. Nuclear power plants!

So we committed a tiny mistake of ruining the ozone, no biggie, we’ll get right back to fixing it (pdf link).

Uninterneted!

Uninterneted -
Uninterneted (adjective) [N.'s Dictionary]
1. The absence of an internet connection for a prolonged period of time.

Today is day four in which I have had no internet connection. I’m going through a terrible detox period. Emotional outbursts, screaming, “WWW”, and “EMAIL” are only starting to be controlled. The problem seems to originate from the telephone itself! The DSL line is active, I can’t get a dial tone though. I can call the number, it rings, but the house phone doesn’t ring! Weird, today enshalla we’ll be calling the emergency phone service to find out what is the matter. Let us hope all goes well.

Updated: My mom called them (our local phone service support hot line!) and they restored the line! They didn’t even provide an explanation why it was not working!

People and I

As a Systems Analyst (I also am more of a Business Analyst as well) I get to go around talking to a lot of people. We usually have our brief small talk about random things, then start talking about the subject at hand, which is how they do their work and what functions they operate with during the day.

This is the first time I get to speak with this multitude of people. Being an Introvert, I don’t usually allow myself to be placed in such a situation. I usually withdraw and hold back when a situation calls for being with too many people, especially reoccurring crowds! However, during my experience the past week or so I have very much enjoyed meeting and talking to all these people!

I also discovered with time, that I love being a host! I love to bring in people together and having a gathering at my place, or inviting people whom I know to an outing or such. I actually have had quite a few experiences where I mixed a couple of groups of friends and things have gone great! Even though there were times where I tried that, and it failed miserably. I tend to choose wisely between which groups to mix, and I’m glad things are currently this way.

Stranded on an Island…

Scratch your back!…what three things would you like to have with you? One of my items would definitely be a back scratcher!! The other two, probably a notebook and a pen!

Tagged by Peony

A Available or single Single
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B BestFriend I like think that best friends can be more than one.
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C Cake or pie Our home made Pineapple Cake!
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D Dance or exercise Exercise, even tho dance is a form of exercise :p
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E Essential Item Laptop! Oh, my pretty little laptop.
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F Favorite color I love a special shade of violet + lavender + blue!
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G Gummy bears or worms Worms? Are you serious? Gummy bears of course.
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H Home town Bayan.
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I Indulgence Ice cream! Sandawich and Thahab! :p
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J January or February February! My birthday is in feb ;)
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K Kids They can be cute. VERY cute. But they’re such a burden.. not that they should be loved any less!
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L Life One day at a time…
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M Marriage refer to my previous post!
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N Number of siblings 2, one brother one sister.
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O Oranges or apples If I HAD to choose? I’d go with apple, less messy :p
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P Phobias I believe every fear can be faced
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Q Favourite Quote “Only a brave person is willing to honestly admit, and fearlessly to face, what a sincere and logical mind discovers.”
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R Reasons to smile So many reasons! Pick a word :D
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S Season Autumn, very serene
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T Tag 3 people only 3? Ok I’ll tag three girls, and three guys. Laialy_q8, DiiGMaa, Kuwait Femme, Vinnie, Nomad, Marzouq
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U Unknown fact about me I once walked from Bayan to Samliya.
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V/W Worst habit Going into total isolation when I get depressed.
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X/Y Your favorite Food STEAK! Rawrr.
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Z Zodiac Aquarius, water anyone?

It is over

There is no real easy way to say this. Did I see it coming, well there were signs, little ones. Maybe I was a little optimistic about how things will turn out. I did have big hopes for this relationship. All the good signs were there, it was just missing something.. I didn’t ponder that much on the thing that was missing and decided to keep on going the normal way about it and concentrate on the good things with the relationship. Soon enough, I found out that I should have taken action way earlier, maybe it would have decreased the level of outcome.

A Series of unfortunate events. That is what it was. I didn’t expect it to reach this level, I tried hard very hard to get things going forward but without avail, there was no compromise, there was no cooperation there was no understanding.

I described a situation to my close friend by explaining to him how when you have a key that will not open a lock, what’s the default course of action? Replace the lock and key! It does not mean to refile the key to match the lock, neither do you start searching for a lock that opens the key. What does replacing the lock and key require? Compromise and cooperation, but if both parties do NOT understand the situation, neither do they wish to move forward and are stuck at one point, then it is impossible to make it work.

If you or anyone you know is going to get into a serious relationship, or a marriage I would really urge you to study the situation in an unbiased manner. The main issue should be conflict and how you can over come it with your partner. Here are a few pointers you might want to keep in mind;

  • Do NOT test your partner. Testing your partner would only lead to problems and lack of trust. It even shows lack of trust. How can you test someone you trust so much? It doesn’t make sense.
  • Compromise. I can’t stress this enough. Marriage or other serious relationships are not about power, nor are they about who’s the dominating person, it is about an agreement or an agreement to disagree!
  • Communicate. Don’t keep everything in until the last minute. Speak whenever you get the chance and be sincere and considerate. If you do not understand why your partner did something, ask them what and why they did what they did.
  • Assert. Do not make this about YOU. This is about BOTH of you. If something is bothering you, then talk about how to make it work with the relationship, making something work only for you will not be healthy for any relationship, especially if you care about the other person so much. Key word is “WE”, “OUR”.
  • Understand. If you don’t understand, then say you don’t. Do not try to guess what the other person wants. We all would love if the other person would understand us without us saying a word, but most of the time that doesn’t work. Make an effort, take initiative.
  • Love. You have to love the other person and be compassionate to make a relationship work. You can’t just play hard to get all the time. You can’t expect the person to miss you without loving you first. Little gestures can do wonders. A small gift or some flowers are very cute. Even guys would appreciate a small gift, or a flower or anything. Also, love is not only gifts it is words. Speak gently, say nice words, sweet words and I’m sure the other person will notice that and take it to heart.
  • Touch. In any love relationship the value of being touched and touching the other person is very important. Holding the hand of the person or a little kiss on the cheek or a hug is always very important and should not be neglected. Do not wait for the other person to make the first move! You have to make a move if the other person doesn’t, don’t be afraid because if you two are in love, this will only enhance the relationship.
  • Be Patient. Without patience, nothing can last. If you feel that there is something missing and that you’ve done everything you can then do not worry and be patient that one day you will get what you need. In a relationship where both people are in love, good things happen, and they usually take time. Don’t push it, but be patient. You can give signs, you can try to take initiative, but if that does not work then be patient. If you feel that it has been too long then have a talk with the other person and be open minded and listen to what the other person has to say. Do not be aggressive, neither be defensive, but assert yourself in a way to show how you want this relationship to get better and move on to better levels.

A final note. The only people who can help you with your relationship are both of you. A single person in a relationship can’t make it work on her own. People who are not part of the relationship can only help you see things differently, but they can’t make it work for you, you have to listen and work as a team to make a relationship work.

This is merely a word of advice from myself, a person who’d been through a marriage that has become no more. I wish you all the best. God bless you all. :)

Beach!

If you haven’t gone recently I recommend that you GO!
If you haven’t swam in the sea recently I recommend that you DO!
Nothing can beat an awesome swim in this beautiful weather!

You’re unimperfect

Edit: Added a song at the end.

Influenced by DiiGMaa‘s Wonderful post (To me, you are…), I decided to write about my take on perfection and love. Read the following paragraph carefully, you might be amazed by the actual underlying meaning.

No one is perfect. We are all unique, but we are all the same, in our own little way. Do we all see things differently? Yet we might feel the same about them. Or do we see things the same, and feel differently about them? Do we see the ones we love in a different way that others see them? Do the people we love see us differently than the way others see us? Or is that what they meant by saying love is blind?

I know that was a little intense, but it should make you think (If you rather not think, skip this post :p). We love to see the ones we love in the best way, we love to love the people we love, and so… we choose to do so. Perfection has two meanings; the absolute meaning, and the relative meaning. The absolute meaning only exists in God. The relative meaning exists in everything else. We see as we perceive, and perceive as we see, that the world around us in an interpretation of our mind. It is a choice, whether we see love, or something else. It is our choice to love, or not.

Reserved, going to add something here later.